Dec 13, 2023
Ways to Explore BDSM: A Beginner's Guide
by DLS Team
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If you find yourself intrigued by the world of BDSM but are unsure where to start as a beginner, you’ve come to the right place. In this guide, we will help you navigate the realm of soft BDSM and provide you with some initial ideas to try. Before we delve into the details, it’s important to note that there is absolutely nothing wrong with having an interest in BDSM. Despite the misconceptions and negative connotations surrounding it, BDSM is simply a form of kinky sexual play that involves consenting individuals.
So, let’s begin our exploration of soft BDSM activities suitable for beginners.
1. GENTLE HAIR PULLING
Hair pulling is an easy and light activity that doesn’t require any sex toys. It allows you to be as gentle or intense as you desire, much like playing with a beloved pet. You have full control over the level of force you apply, whether it’s a playful tug or a more vigorous pull. The choice is yours.
2. GRADUAL SPANKING
Give in to the temptation of spanking that enticing booty! As beginners, you need not jump straight into intense paddle play. Instead, start with using your hands for light and sensual smacks. Gradually increase the force and intensity as you become more comfortable. It’s crucial to warm up the area before intensifying the sensations. Once you’re ready to take it up a notch, consider exploring various spanking toys, such as paddles, to spice things up.
3. EXPLORING LANGUAGE AND POWER DYNAMICS
One exciting aspect of BDSM is the freedom to use explicit language and power play dynamics. Feel free to experiment with calling your partner provocative names like “cunt” or “slut,” as long as both of you have agreed upon the use of such terms beforehand. Respect your partner’s boundaries to maintain a healthy and enjoyable experience.
4. SOFT BONDAGE WITH GENTLE FABRICS
If you’re interested in experiencing bondage but prefer a gentle introduction, opt for soft fabrics like scarves or neckties instead of ropes or handcuffs. Ensure that there’s enough space for two fingers to fit between the tie and the skin to prevent cutting off circulation. Remember, the goal is to add a touch of excitement, not to endanger anyone involved.
5. LIGHT BONDAGE EXPLORATION
If you discover a strong interest in being restrained, consider progressing to the next level with bed restraints. Being securely bound can intensify the experience of surrendering control. Remember, extensive equipment or elaborate setups are not necessary for beginners. Utilize everyday items creatively, like a rolled-up pillowcase or a tie, to fulfill your desires. However, regardless of the intensity, always establish a safe word and prioritize open communication with your partner to ensure a consensual and secure experience.
6. POWER PLAY NAMES
As a beginner, incorporating power play names such as “Sir,” “Madam,” “Master,” or “Slave” can enhance the overall fantasy during your BDSM exploration. Experiment with different titles and find what resonates with you and your partner’s desires.
7. SENSUAL BITING
Biting can be both sexy and thrilling. However, always seek consent from your partner before engaging in this activity. Everyone has different preferences, so be sure to communicate and establish boundaries to maintain a pleasurable experience.
8. THE ART OF ROLE PLAY
Role-playing adds an extra layer of excitement to soft BDSM experiences. For example, you can try restraining your partner’s arms during oral sex or explore scenarios such as “forced” submission or “begging for punishment.” The key is to establish clear roles, with one partner taking on the dominant role and the other embracing submission.
9. HEIGHTENING SENSATIONS WITH BLINDFOLDS
Introduce a blindfold into your play to intensify the other senses. By limiting sight, the remaining senses become heightened, making even the slightest touch or brush feel incredibly tantalizing. Ensure that the unblindfolded partner takes control and the blindfolded partner relinquishes it, emphasizing the power dynamic between you.
0. EXPLORING FLOGGING
Flogging, though it may seem intimidating, can provide an arousing and thrilling experience. For beginners, it’s advisable to start with softer materials, such as floggers made of rabbit fur, to acclimate to the sensation. As you become more comfortable, you can gradually transition to floggers made of leather for a more intense experience. Remember, always prioritize safety and consent throughout the process.
11. DISCOVERING PLEASURE IN PAIN
Pain play involves activities like squeezing or pinching. For beginners, experimenting with adjustable clothespins can be an excellent way to explore pain thresholds. Start with placing them on sensitive areas such as nipples, stomach, or inner thighs, and gauge the level of comfort you and your partner can sustain. This exploration can add an exciting element to your BDSM encounters
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12. EMBRACING THE SENSUALITY OF WAX PLAY
Candle wax is another avenue to explore within soft BDSM. When done correctly, it offers an intriguing mix of pleasure and sensation. However, it’s crucial to conduct thorough research beforehand. Different candles melt at varying temperatures, and some can cause burns or bruises. Ensure the safety of all involved parties by selecting appropriate candles and exercising caution during the play.
13. EXPERIMENTING WITH ICE PLAY
If you’re not keen on incorporating heat into your play, ice can be a thrilling alternative. It’s an easily accessible and affordable prop that can heighten both pleasure and sensation. Experiment with running ice cubes over your partner’s body, allowing the cooling effect to evoke pleasurable shivers. You can also incorporate ice into oral sex for an exciting twist. Remember, always prioritize the comfort and consent of both participants.