Sep 16, 2023
Fire & Ice: Ultimate Guide To Temperature Sex Play
by DLS Team
The world of sexual exploration is vast and varied, and one exciting avenue to consider is temperature play. While it might initially sound intense or unfamiliar, integrating hot and cold sensations into your intimate moments is surprisingly simple. All you need are some basic tools like ice, hot water, or a little creativity to embark on this sensory journey. But why would you want to incorporate temperature into your sex life, you ask? Well, it’s all about the psychology of arousal and the electrifying sensations it can produce.
“When temperature play is negotiated and consented to, the brain starts preparing for a sexy and exciting experience, and basically puts nerve endings in the body — not just erogenous zones, but everywhere else — on high alert for new sensations,” explains Dulcinea Pitagora, a renowned sex therapist known as the Kink Doctor.
However, it’s important to remember that not everyone will be interested in temperature play, and that’s perfectly okay. Each individual has their unique preferences, and if you or your partner aren’t into it, there’s no need to force it. As Holly Richmond, PhD, a somatic psychologist and certified sex therapist, advises, “Temperature play can be fun, but not wanting to play with ice or heat doesn’t make you boring in bed.”
For those who are intrigued by the idea, incorporating hot or cold sensations can be a delightful way to spice up your usual intimate routines. A pro tip: Consider blindfolding your partner on the receiving end of temperature play, as restricting their sense of sight can intensify the feelings of hot and cold.
However, as with many aspects of sexual exploration, it’s crucial to start slowly, especially if you’re a beginner. Avoid diving into more extreme forms of temperature play, such as fire play or branding. Instead, here are some safer and beginner-friendly tips to get you started:
1. Temperature Play with Sex Toys
Certain sex toys, particularly those made from glass or metal, are ideal for temperature play because they retain heat or cold exceptionally well. Experiment by placing your toy in the freezer for a while to cool it down or immersing it in a cup of hot water to heat it up.
Cautious: You don’t want to stick either a scalding or a totally frozen sex toy inside of your body. Place the dildo against your wrist to check that it’s a comfortable temperature before you start using it.
2. Food and Temperature Play
Combine the pleasures of food and temperature play by using ice cream, whipped cream, or other tasty treats. Drip or spray these treats over your partner’s body for a delightful contrast of cold and warmth.
Cautious: However, be cautious not to get any food substances too close to the genital area, as sugar can lead to yeast infections.
3. Warming Your Mouth
Before engaging in oral sex, consider warming up your mouth with a hot beverage like tea or coffee. This added warmth can enhance the sensations during oral play.
Cautious: Again, just be mindful to avoid excessive sugar near the genital area to prevent potential yeast infections.
4. Ice Play
Perhaps the most straightforward technique, using an ice cube allows for various creative possibilities. You can cool down your mouth before oral sex, gently drip melted ice water over your partner’s body, or experiment with ice around sensitive areas like the nipples.
Cautious, as extremely cold ice may stick to the skin, but you can easily remedy this by warming the ice cube in your mouth or a bowl for a moment. Or you might relieve the scene in that scene in A Christmas Story when the kid sticks his tongue to a metal pole, a too-cold ice cube could stick to your partner’s skin.
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5. Wax Play
Think of wax play as a counterpart to dripping cold ice water, except it involves melted wax instead. With the right type of candle, you can transform temperature play into a sexy massage.
It’s important to note that you should use candles designed for this purpose to avoid potential burns (Low Temperature Candle) or toxic reactions. These specialized massage oil candles are most readily available in sex toy shops or online.
6. Temperature-Adjusted Lube
If you’re a fan of using lubricants during intimate moments (and who isn’t?), you can incorporate your favourite lube into temperature play. Adjusting the temperature of the lube can add a new layer of sensation. Simply place your lube in the fridge for a few minutes to cool it down.
Cautious: Remember to test a few drops on your wrist before applying it to ensure it’s a comfortable temperature.
Conclusion
Temperature play offers a thrilling way to explore new sensations and experiences in the bedroom. As with any aspect of sexual exploration, communication and consent are paramount. Take your time, be mindful of your partner’s comfort, and enjoy the sensation of Temperature Sex Play.
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